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Doris Michol Sippel is the author of “Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity,” 3rd Edition, available from Amazon. She is the owner of Identity Press. Doris Michol Sippel was born legitimately in January of 1956. She became a half-orphan at the age of three months when her mother died. At the finalization of her adoption the following January, a Surrogate Court Judge sent orders to change her name in accordance with the 1936 New York State law that requires the creation of a new birth certificate for each child who is adopted. This law assumes that the child was born illegitimately; therefore, adoption legitimizes the child by providing a new mother who is legally married to the child’s new legal father. Even though Doris had a legitimate father, adoption law provided her with a different legal father, hence legitimizing her unnecessarily. On March 4, 1957, the state issued Doris a substitute “amended” birth certificate in the name of Joan Mary Wheeler, falsely naming her new “parents” as if they conceived, and gave birth to her. By law, as in all adoptions, Doris’s birth certificate was then repossessed, its official certification revoked, and the document was sealed forever. Both of these acts erased her natural-born identity and family. Legally, she and her family ceased to exist. Lawfully, Doris became Joan, but that was not, and is not, the truth of her reality. Since her reunion in 1974, she claims both identities: a legitimate bastard in one family and a half-orphan in the other. Her dual identity is real, but the state recognizes only her legally manufactured identity. For this denial of her civil rights, she is supposed to be a grateful “adopted child” forever. Doris Michol Sippel legally reclaimed her name on June 13, 2016. Her birth certificate is still sealed by New York State.

Adoption BEwareness Month – True and False Birth Certificates

Trying to learn FTP file transfer to build this flash gallery… in the meantime, these photos came with the slide-show setup. My own birth records will be added soon.

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The woman I was named after died a few days ago. This is for Aunt Doris.

Adoption not only took me away from the family I was born into, but adoption took away the name I was given at birth. I had that full name for one year and one week, until the Judge ordered my name to be changed. It took the State a few months to issue my new (false) birth certificate in my adoptive name.

Adoption also took away the name I was given in the Catholic Sacrament of Baptism. According to Catholic dogma, a person must use their baptismal name to take vows: to become a nun or a priest, get married, and receive other holy sacraments. I was deprived of my baptismal name because the Church issued a false baptismal certificate in my adoptive name three years after the real baptismal ceremony. Catholic Baptism is not simply a symbolic gesture. Catholics believe that the child receiving the sacrament of Baptism is blessed by God. If that is true, then the Catholic Church should not have falsified a new Baptismal Certificate in my adoptive name. That document gives the impression that I was baptized in that name, which I was not.

An adopted child is not born twice, nor is that child baptized twice. Yet I have several birth certificates and two baptismal certificates.

New York State sealed my birth records upon the finalization of my adoption. To this very day, nearly 54 years after my birth, I am barred from legally obtaining my true birth certificate. My case fell through the cracks. I have my sealed records (as evidenced in the cropped slides above and full scanned images in my forthcoming book). But I cannot obtain certified copies at the local Office of Vital Statistics because the law won’t allow it — even if I present what I have! That is totally illogical. Changing my identity without my consent, and without giving me my own attorney to act in my behalf at the time I could not speak for myself as an infant, is a crime that goes unpunished for millions of adoptees worldwide.

Just who do you people think you are anyway? What gives you the right to snatch infants from their families, change their names and prevent them from ever knowing the truth? Adoption is a disgusting, life-sucking institution that mimics real families. No one can truly love in a lie. Once the adoptive parents lie, their friends and extended family lie, building lie upon lie, fabrication upon stretched truth, day after day, decade after decade. Lie becomes believed truth. While relatives do their dance around the wicked adoptee, the unsuspecting adoptee is condemned, mocked, ridiculed, and scorned.

Couples get divorced for infidelity, with or without photographic proof. Parental infidelity in adoption, however, is rewarded by false and fraudulent birth certificates proving that the child is “theirs”, and all the rest of the glorified accolades of how wonderful these adoptive parents are to take in an unwanted child. How wonderful indeed, to be that unwanted child, to sense others’ pity and scorn. I, the adoptee, must live with the consequences of all those lies for the duration of my lifetime. This has had a devestating trickle-down effect on my children’s quality of life. That’s another topic for discussion…

Thank GOD I gave up being a Catholic for Lent somewhere around age 14! And I never looked back longingly for a religion built on lies, deceit, damaging secrets, hypocracy and fraudulent religious documents. The Pope has not bothered to answer my second letter to the Vatican. My first letter was answered with a form letter. Evidently someone in The Vatican took my second letter seriously because there was no form letter this time. No response was sent because there is no official Church acknowledgement of this crime of issuing my falsified baptismal certificate signed by a Catholic priest.

Some Commandment says “Thou shall not bear false witness”.

Another Commandment says, “Thou shall not steal”. We’ve not really delved into that one much, but I heard the author A J Jacobs (The Year of Living Biblically) say that that commandment actually means “thou shalt not steal other people’s children”. I wish I could find a link to that quote. I heard him say that recently on C-Span’s Book TV. So, children, here’s your Bible task for this week: Go find that quote. Better yet, study The Golden Rule: Do not do to others what you would not want done to you.

No, adoption is not a wonderful thing, event or condition. Adoption is a cover-up, a con-job, and a mockery of the sanctity of life.

Go ahead, you defenders of the status quo, keep shoving your shock and dismay at me. What about orphans who have no parents? What about the kids LANGUISHING in orphanages? and bla bla bla.

Even full orphans were conceived and born of one mother and one father. Those are the birds and the bees — the facts of life. Guardianship of true full orphans provides loving homes for children who desperately need homes. Guardianship does not destroy the identity of that child, nor does guardianship destroy family relationships. Guardianship gives a true perspective. Caring guardians can model parental roles while accepting that they did not give birth to that child. Guardians can give respect to the missing parents by acknowledging their names, their race, ethnicity, national origin, family religion, and, most important of all, guardians can respect the child for who she is. Adoption, by its very nature, is secretive, manipulative, and disrespectful to the true parents and the adoptee.

Working toward total honesty in adoption means to first acknowledge the act of adoption by issuing a certified Certificate of Adoption for every adoption of the past as a Vital Statistic of Adoption to be registered in the Office of Vital Statistics of where the adoption took place.

Secondly, from this day forward, make adoption itself illegal. Family Preservation, Kinship Care and Guardianship are the only acceptable alternatives to closed and sealed adoption.

Keep the Birth Certificate Discussion Going

On October 28, 2009 By legitimatebastardIn Adoptee Birth Certificates, Adoptee False Baptismal Certificate, Adoptee False Legal Birth Certificate, Adoptee True Sealed Birth Certificate, Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions, Adoptees' Civil Rights, True Birth Certificate for Donor-Conceived

It is important to keep the dialogue going concerning adoptees’ birth certificates and our natural parents’ rights to the birth certificate of the daughter or son they lost to adoption. This post is a reminder to read and leave a comment on the Page titled “True Birth Certificates”.

Letter From Brisbane Hospital (Aus) Sets Example

On October 27, 2009 By legitimatebastardIn Hospital Apology1 Comment

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As an adoptee who has long supported mothers of adoption loss (and fathers, too, since it was my father who relinquished me to adoption), I am in support of SilverDove’s post http://familypreservation.blogspot.com/2009/06/royal-brisbane-apology.html that gives a brief background of the public apology from The Royal Brisbane and Women’s Hospital in Queensland, Australia for the inhumane treatment of mothers who lost their babies at birth to adoption. Readers’ comments at Silverdove’s post are very insightful. She includes links to other sites for Australian mothers of adoption loss — a must read for adoption awareness.

This letter of apology from an Australian hospital that took newborn infants away from their mothers at birth solely because the babies were illegitimate and their mothers labeled as unfit, sets a new, and hopefully, growing precedent of the acknowledgment of pain and suffering inflicted on teens and young women who have been, and are, victims of the vast, worldwide multi-billion dollar adoption industry.

Single women of any age do not deserve for others to take their newborns away from them at birth, or soon afterward. Their infants are also victims.

This letter is an example to the rest of the world. Respect mothers. Respect their newborn children. Stop adoption abuse. Find ways to support a single mother to keep her child because a pregnant woman and her baby are a family. Birth is how we all came to be. If you were taken from your mother, or you lost your baby at birth – you would not like it, either.

SUPPORT FAMILY PRESERVATION. End the widespread practice of the kidnapping of newborns from their mothers — now.

Here’s an activity for my readers: Copy and paste the letter at the end of this post and send it out:

(Ooopps — I have disabled the right click and copy mechanism. So, if you would like a copy of this letter, please email me and I will send you a copy of this letter from Brisbane Hospital: admin at forbiddenfamily dot com)

MOTHERS OF ADOPTION LOSS: Send a copy of this letter from Brisbane Hospital to all adoption agencies and maternity wards of hospitals all over America. With it, send your own letter explaining why you want an apology from the hospital and maternity “Home” that took your child.

ADOPTEES: Send a copy of this letter from Brisbane Hospital and write your own letter to the hospital you were born in (if you know the name of it) explaining that you do not appreciate being stolen from your mother at birth. That act prevented you from being loved and cared for by your mother, prevented you from the natural emotional closeness the two of you shared. The act of taking you away at birth prevented you from drinking nourishing milk from your mother’s breast; the act of suckling not only strengthens the symbiotic bond between a mother and her child, but it provides the baby with natural biological proteins and immune system building blocks needed for life outside the mother’s womb. Adoptees: the act of ripping you from your mother is an act of violence against both of you and your mother. The natural order of life itself was disrupted. Tell the hospital you resent what was done to you.

NON-ADOPTEES: Get on board. Stop the social myths that exist out there. Realize what you tell a frightened pregnant teen or older woman will affect her and her baby for life. Do not promote the unnatural separation of mother and newborn or older child, by saying something stupid like, “Oh, you are too young, give the baby to someone else, you’ll get over it.”

SOCIAL WORKERS: Stop separating mothers and their newborns. You are creating lifelong pain and suffering.

PREGNANT AND SCARED: Do not feel that you must give up your baby to a couple who wants your baby. YOU are your child’s mother. Keep your baby!

Couple Implanted With Another Couple’s Embryo Will Give Baby To His Genetic Parents Immediately Upon Birth

On October 27, 2009 By legitimatebastardIn Baby Has Two Sets of Parents, Embryo Mixup, True Birth Certificate for Donor-Conceived, Unintended Surrogate Mother

from my former blog —

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2009

Couple Implanted With Another Couple’s Embryo Will Give Baby To His Genetic Parents Immediately Upon Birth….

Honesty, sincerity, integrity! Can you imagine that? Here’s a couple, devastated to learn this past February that the pregnancy achieved through IVF was not their biological child, this couple makes the right decision to give the baby back to his rightful parents. The boy is not yet born. The couple is devastated that they are not pregnant with their own genetic child.

The genetic parents will be traveling to the hospital from another state for the delivery, but they will not be in the room for the cesarean delivery. Here’s the link to that story on CNN:http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/09/22/wrong.embryo.family/index.html

This unborn boy has the right to a truthful birth certificate. He also has rights to all of his parents.

I hope the authorities will document this boy’s conception and birth truthfully. He has two mothers. Even though the second father is not involved in conception and birth, he is emotionally connected to that baby. The couple who is going through this pregnancy has influenced this unborn baby with their voices, their emotions, their environment, and their love. They must be added to the boy’s birth certificate: the pregnant woman will give birth to a son who is not her genetic son! The genetic parents will have their newborn placed in their arms at birth. They should also be named on the child’s birth certificate. Information about the infertility clinic where he was conceived should also be named.

Visitation should be awarded to the parents who will relinquish their birth-son, and, from the boy’s perspective, he may also want to visit with these parents and their other children. After all, he was nurtured in his birth-mother’s womb and heard her other children’s voices. They are his siblings, even though they are not genetically related.