How Would My Mother Feel to Know New York State Erased Her From My Birth Certificate?

In these last few days days of writing to and calling New York State Governor Andrew Cuomo to Veto the current bills up for his signature (regressive Mother-May-I Bills A5036B/S4845A), I feel myself wanting to talk to my mother. But I can’t. She died three months after my birth 61 years ago.

I keep wondering what she would think and feel about being erased as my mother, wiped off of my official birth certificate. I feel sad for her, even though she really does not know what happened after her death.

But I was told that she loved me, she loved all of her 5 children. She was only 30 years old. I can’t imagine her sadness at knowing she was dying after giving birth.

How would she feel to know that New York State decided she was not my mother? Didn’t she give up enough? Her life did not matter?

How would she feel to know that I miss her? That I want her as my mother on my true birth certificate?

I fight for New York State to reinstate my real birth certificate, not just for my civil rights, but for her, my mother. She gave her life so I could live. Her body was filled with cancer, yet she continued to live so I could be born. And New York State removed her name from my birth certificate and replaced her name with that of another woman. And the amended birth certificate after my adoption even claims this new woman gave birth to me in the hospital where my real birth took place. Hospital records will show who really gave birth to me.

And please, spare me any arguments that I did not love my adoptive mother. That was a very complicated relationship, and only three people know what my childhood was like: me, my adoptive father and my adoptive mother. No one else knows. And no one else knows what was said between us in the years, months, days, hours before her death in 2011. My adoptive mother, for all of her faults, and for all of the hurt she cause me, toward the end of her life, she always spoke of my natural mother as “Your mother”. She spoke those words with a soft reverence.

Does New York State have respect for the dead? No. New York State owes my real mother respect and dignity. Right the wrongs. Identify my real mother. Release my real birth certificate. Reinstate my mother AS my mother, certify her AS my mother for all eternity on a document that will be available for me, for my children, and for my grandchildren. As it stands right now, my descendants will only be allowed to retrieve my amended birth certificate issued upon my adoption.

But no, that’s not correct now, either. Since I reclaimed my name last year, my amended birth certificate was voided because it has the wrong name on it. To complete the process, I am supposed to apply for a new amended birth certificate in Albany to update my “new” name so that the Vital Statistics Office will issue a corrected birth certificate. But that would mean that I, Doris Michol Sippel, would then be born, on paper, to Doloris and Edward Wheeler, who actually adopted me and changed my name to Joan Mary Wheeler in 1957.

The HELL I am going to request such a stupid document from New York State!

I already told the sweet man at the Supreme Court help desk that I would not do it. I am using my raised-seal, certified, medical record of live birth that was issued within five days of my birth AS MY IDENTIFICATION even though New York State does not recognize it as “legal” because it was revoked and sealed after my adoption. If I do not request a “new” amended birth certificate, I will continue to use my very old, pre-revoked and pre-sealed birth certificate. But if it is lost, stolen, or worn out, I do not have the legal right to obtain a replacement certified copy. My adoption overrides my real birth.

Even if New York State Health Department, Division of Vital Statistics does not officially validate the facts of my birth, I owe it to my mother and my father to fight for truth. Social Security changed the names of my parents in my official record when I presented my real birth certificate to them last year. Now I will continue to fight Vital Statistics to release the seal, to validate my real birth and annul any trace of the false facts put forth by the legal transaction of adoption.

Mom, I do it for you, too.

And for Dad.

You would want me to, wouldn’t you, Mom?

New York Adoptees Lost the Fight Just Minutes Before Midnight June 21, 2017

The bad bill passed the New York State Senate just minutes before Midnight, June 21 to June 22.

The next step, the Governor’s office.

In New York State, adoptees now are mourning. We must fight the bureaucracy. Tell the Governor not to sign this into law.

Beyond that, where is that civil rights attorney I’ve been looking for?

Give me back my real birth certificate.

Give all adoptees our real birth certificates and stop playing games.

Class Action Lawsuit – Where is that attorney?

 

New York State Senators Please VOTE NO on S4845-B & ADVANCE S5169-A (same as A6821-A)

I am a New York State Adoptee living in Town of Tonawanda near Buffalo

Assembly District 140

Senate District 60

 

Tuesday June 21, 2017

Subject: VOTE NO on S4845-B & ADVANCE S5169-A (same as A6821-A)

 

Dear New York State Senators:

This is my second email to you following the New York State Assembly vote of 120 Yes and 27 No for A5036-B.

I am including here links to two video clips of two Assembly members who were influenced to VOTE NO as a direct result of reading emails from adopted citizens.

https://www.facebook.com/adopteerightslaw/videos/1921502868131546/

Hon. Dean Murray

https://www.facebook.com/adopteerightslaw/videos/1921534404795059/

Hon. Robert C. Carroll

To All New York Senators: I urge you to watch and listen to these two members of the New York Assembly. They listened to us. I am asking you to listen to us. An Adoptees’ Rights Bill MUST be about Adoptees and Adoptees ONLY. Senate Bill S4845-B, with the amendments, has become a bill about protecting mothers’ perceived rights to confidentiality.

I urge you to VOTE NO on S4845-B.

Senate Bill S4845-B must NOT be passed into law. It is not about restoring adoptee civil rights to have access to our sealed birth certificate; this bill caters to the whims of a few scared mothers who inflict their pain onto adoptees who will then pay the price of their ignorance. If passed into law, this will further erode the civil rights of New York State’s adopted citizens. No other group of people must ask parental permission and be subjected to a judge’s final say to do anything in life.

Signed relinquishment removes ALL parental rights. Why would you vote to give some parental rights back to parents of adopted adults? Children become autonomous adults at the age of majority.

Signed relinquishment does not remove parents’ names from their child’s birth certificate. After relinquishment, the child is in the custody of the adoption agency, the state, or foster parents, or prospective adoptive parents. If the child is never adopted and ages out of foster care, that child maintains the birth certificate for life – without the relinquishing parents’ consent or power to redact their names from the birth certificate.

A child’s name and parents’ names are only removed from the official birth record upon the final order of adoption, not relinquishment. It is at the finalization of adoption that the judge orders the name and birth certificate to be sealed and a new one issued to replace it.

If you didn’t know that, you should. You are our law makers and you should know that the mothers you might be trying to protect actually have no right to even ask if their child has actually been adopted and they have no right to seek out the adoptee during the first 18 years of the relinquished child’s life. The judge tells relinquishing mothers and fathers to stay away from the adoptee and the adoptive parents. That is why the records were sealed – to prevent the natural parents from interfering with the new family.

Yes, I know there is open adoption. But even in open adoption the records are sealed. That makes no sense.

It seems to me that there might be a consensus to move toward pushing this bill forward into law because other states have passed similar confidential intermediary and redactive bills into law, favoring the unproven myth that mothers were promised confidentially.

Do you know the history of sealed records in America? I urge you to consider that each state in the United States passed laws in the 1930s to revoke and seal birth certificates of every child who was adopted to hide the stigma of being born an illegitimate bastard. The false birth certificate changed the legal status of the child; adoption by a legally married mother and father legally legitimized the bastard.

In today’s society, we know that not all adoptees were born bastards, and those who were, do not deserve the stigma. Many of us were removed from married parents and then adopted. Many of us were adopted by their step parents. Some adoptees were adopted by their grandparents, or aunts and uncles, or older siblings. In these in-family adoptions, the birth records are still revoked and sealed and new birth certificates are created according to the order of adoption.

Orphans are also adopted. (I am a half orphan – my mother died when I was 3 months old. My father gave me up for adoption). That means orphans, too, were born of married parents and then adopted.

But the New York State law that was passed in 1935 was meant to hide illegitimacy. What purpose does revoking and sealing the medical record of live birth and replacing it with a fictitious birth certificate do to legitimately-born children?

Why should adoptees, regardless of the circumstances of birth and adoption, be subjected to punitive laws that rob us of our natural born identities? These standards do not apply to non-adopted people. Altering facts presented on any other birth certificate would be perjury. But in adoption, it is acceptable. And expected.

The issue at hand isn’t about natural parents who want to hide. The issue – and the TITLE of the original Bill was ADOPTEE BILL OF RIGHTS. It was supposed to be about the civil rights of all adopted people to the truth of our births. With the amendments, S4845-B has turned its focus toward the misguided notion that mothers need protection.

Adoptees ceased being under the control of our adoptive parents when we reached the age of majority. Now New York State’s badly-amended bill will force us to ask parental permission from our natural parents who gave us up for adoption, and we will be subjected to a judge’s decision over whether or not we can have our birth certificate. The bill will give redaction power to the natural parents if they do not want to be known.

What other parent has the right to remove their name from their child’s birth certificate? None.

It would be an education for you to see all of my birth certificates: my hospital birth certificate, my short form birth registration, my long form medical record of live birth, my short form amended birth certificate issued upon adoption, my long form birth certificate issued upon adoption. To see all of my birth certificates, follow this link to my article published on my website: https://forbiddenfamily.com/2017/03/24/presenting-my-sealed-birth-certificate-and-falsified-one-as-evidence-of-new-york-state-fraud-revoking-sealing-and-falsifying-adoptees-birth-certificates-is-unconstitutional/ Presenting My Sealed Birth Certificate and Falsified One as Evidence of New York State Fraud – Revoking, Sealing and Falsifying Adoptees’ Birth Certificates is Unconstitutional

Once you see the evidence I present, I hope you will change your mind to VOTE NO on S4845B.

Please move Senate Bill S5169-A (same as A6821-A) forward as it focuses on Adoptee Rights without parental permission.

 

Sincerely,

Doris Michol Sippel

Born January 7, 1956.

Adopted as Joan Mary Wheeler on January 14, 1957.

Legally reclaimed name of birth on June 13, 2017.

 

 

New York State Senators Please VOTE NO on S4845-B

I am a New York State Adoptee living in Town of Tonawanda near Buffalo

Assembly District 140

Senate District 60

 

 

Tuesday June 20, 2017

Subject: VOTE NO on S4845-B

 

Dear New York State Senators:

After today’s New York State Assembly passing A5036-B with a vote of 120 Yes and 27 no, I urge you to listen to your adopted constituents. The Assembly certainly did not hear us.

Senate Bill S4845-B must NOT be passed into law. It is not about restoring adoptee civil rights to have access to our sealed birth certificate; this bill caters to the whims of a few scared mothers who inflict their pain onto adoptees who will pay the price of their ignorance. If passed into law, this will further erode the civil rights of New York State’s adopted citizens. No other group of people must ask parental permission and be subjected to a judge’s final say to do anything in life.

Signed relinquishment removes ALL parental rights. Why would you vote to give some parental rights back to parents of adopted adults? Children become autonomous adults at the age of majority.

Signed relinquishment does not remove parents’ names from their child’s birth certificate. After relinquishment, the child is in the custody of the adoption agency, the state, or foster parents, or prospective adoptive parents. If the child is never adopted and ages out of foster care, that child maintains the birth certificate for life – without the relinquishing parents’ consent or power to redact their names from the birth certificate.

A child’s name and parents’ names are only removed from the official birth record upon the final order of adoption, not relinquishment. It is at the finalization of adoption that the judge orders the name and birth certificate to be sealed and a new one issued to replace it.

If you didn’t know that, you should. You are our law makers and you should know that the mothers you might be trying to protect actually have no right to even ask if their child has actually been adopted and they have no right to seek out the adoptee during the first 18 years of the relinquished child’s life. The judge tells relinquishing mothers and fathers to stay away from the adoptee and the adoptive parents. That is why the records were sealed – to prevent the natural parents from interfering with the new family.

Yes, I know there is open adoption. But even in open adoption the records are sealed. That makes no sense.

It seems to me that there might be a consensus to move toward pushing this bill forward into law because other states have passed similar confidential intermediary and redactive bills into law, favoring the unproven myth that mothers were promised confidentially.

Do you know the history of sealed records in America? I urge you to consider that each state in the United States passed laws in the 1930s to revoke and seal birth certificates of every child who was adopted to hide the stigma of being born an illegitimate bastard. The false birth certificate changed the legal status of the child; adoption by a legally married mother and father legally legitimized the bastard.

In today’s society, we know that not all adoptees were born bastards, and those who were, do not deserve the stigma. Many of us were removed from married parents and then adopted. Many of us were adopted by their step parents. Some adoptees were adopted by their grandparents, or aunts and uncles, or older siblings. In these in-family adoptions, the birth records are still revoked and sealed and new birth certificates are created according to the order of adoption.

Orphans are also adopted. That means we, too, were born of married parents and then adopted.

But the New York State law that was passed in 1935 was meant to hide illegitimacy. What purpose does revoking and sealing the medical record of live birth and replacing it with a fictitious birth certificate do to legitimately-born children?

Why should adoptees, regardless of the circumstances of birth and adoption, be subjected to punitive laws that rob us of our natural born identities? These standards do not apply to non-adopted people. Altering facts presented on any other birth certificate would be perjury. But in adoption, it is acceptable. And expected.

This isn’t about natural parents who want to hide. This is about the civil rights of all adopted people to the truth of our births.

We ceased being under the control of our adoptive parents when we reached the age of majority. Now New York State’s badly-amended bill will force us to ask parental permission and be subjected to a judge’s decision over whether or not we can have our birth certificate? And the bill will give redaction power to the natural parents if they do not want to be known?

What other parent has the right to remove their name from their child’s birth certificate? None.

It would be an education for you to see all of my birth certificates: my hospital birth certificate, my short form birth registration, my long form medical record of live birth, my short form amended birth certificate issued upon adoption, my long form birth certificate issued upon adoption. To see all of my birth certificates, follow this link to my article published on my website: https://forbiddenfamily.com/2017/03/24/presenting-my-sealed-birth-certificate-and-falsified-one-as-evidence-of-new-york-state-fraud-revoking-sealing-and-falsifying-adoptees-birth-certificates-is-unconstitutional/ Presenting My Sealed Birth Certificate and Falsified One as Evidence of New York State Fraud – Revoking, Sealing and Falsifying Adoptees’ Birth Certificates is Unconstitutional

Once you see the evidence I present, I hope you will change your mind to VOTE NO on S04845B.

Sincerely,

Doris Michol Sippel

Born January 7, 1956.

Adopted as Joan Mary Wheeler on January 14, 1957.

Legally reclaimed name of birth on June 13, 2017.

New York State Legislators Please VOTE NO on A5036-B and S4845-B & ADVANCE A6821-A and S5169-A

 

I live in these Districts:

Assembly District 140

Senate District 60

 

Monday June 19, 2017

Subject: VOTE NO on A5036-B and S4845-B & ADVANCE A6821-A and S5169-A

 

Dear New York State Legislators:

To those legislators who have contacted me to say that you will Vote NO to A5036-B, or at least take into consideration why you should vote NO, thank you. I appreciate your time to understand the issues at hand.

For those legislators who are still undecided, I am asking you again, with further explanation, to VOTE NO on A5036-B and S4845-B.

It seems to me that there might be a consensus to move toward pushing this bill forward into law because other states have passed similar confidential intermediary and redactive bills into law, favoring the unproven myth that mothers were promised confidentially.

I urge you to consider that each state in the United States passed laws in the 1930s to revoke and seal birth certificates of every child who was adopted to hide the stigma of being born an illegitimate bastard. The false birth certificate changed the legal status of the child; adoption by a legally married mother and father legally legitimized the bastard.

In today’s society, we know that not all adoptees were born bastards, and those who were, do not deserve the stigma.

We also know that children are removed from married parents and then adopted. Children of divorced parents are adopted by their step parents. Some children are adopted by their grandparents, or aunts and uncles, or older siblings. We know that full and half orphans, born of married parents, are also adopted. In each and every case, all children who are adopted are robbed of their natural born identities. New birth certificates are created for them. THIS is the main problem which is not being addressed by New York State legislators.

Why on Earth do you think that this kind of deception is morally, ethically, humanely, and civilly correct?

New York State has been creating new birth certificates for all adopted people since 1935. It is time THIS problem is stopped!

The two bills currently up in New York State – A5036-B and S4845-B (the “unclean” bills to be voted NO) and the “clean” bills A6821-A and S5169-A (that simply state that adoptees should be granted access to their now-sealed Original Birth Certificate) do not go far enough.

Many adopted people want mere access to their now-sealed original birth certificate because they are desperate for information about themselves. I understand this. Many adoptees want this “clean” bill to advance. For the sake of getting rid of the bad bills A5036-B and S4845-B, yes, I agree that voting into law a bill that further erodes adoptee rights would be bad for New York State adopted persons.

But, neither the old and badly amended Bill of Adoptee Rights (A5036-B and S4845-B), nor the new New York Bill of Adoptee Rights (A6821-A and S5169-A) are not “clean”.

The amended bills A5036-B and S4845-B are more concerned over mothers’ perceived right to confidentiality and treat adoptees as bastards in the nasty sense of the word – we are still seen as low life.

The new New York Bill of Adoptee Rights (A6821-A and S5169-A) is “clean” as far as unrestricted, equal access to original birth certificates for adult adoptees goes. That means, giving adoptees the respect due us as autonomous adults capable of rational thought to make our own decisions to see the truth of our births without parental permission or a judge’s decision.

But as for the total restoration of civil and human rights to our actual medical record of live birth is concerned, neither the old bill nor the new Bill of Adoptee Rights are “clean.”

Why do I say that?

Because neither bill will totally restore adoptees’ lost civil rights to our one and only medical record of live birth. Neither bill will stop the revocation and sealing of adoptees’ medical record of live birth, nor will stop the production of falsified birth certificates for adoptees.

Voting YES to the new New York Bill of Adoptee Rights (A6821-A and S5169-A) is a far better choice for Adoptees Civil Rights, but having access to a copy of the medical record of live birth while still maintaining the legality of the falsified birth certificate does not make adoptees equal to non-adopted people.

The only way adoptees will be truly equal to non-adopted people is to completely restore our civil rights to obtain a certified copy of our medical record of live birth and to be able to legally use it as identification, just as it was intended. Our legally-fictionalized identities are not who we were born to be. Adoptees should have the right to obtain a certified copy of our now-sealed birth record to replace our legally fictionalized “birth” certificate if we so choose.

And, for all new adoptees, legislators must enact a law that will stop revoking and sealing the birth certificates and stop the production of falsified birth certificates upon adoption.

THAT is the crux of the problem. The answer is full civil rights restoration to adoptees to use our medical record of live birth as identification, just as non-adopted people use theirs.

Give adoptees who seek their sealed records the choice to reclaim their name of birth or to maintain their adopted name. Give adoptees the choice to receive a certified copy of their now-sealed birth certificate to replace the falsified one that adoption made for them or to keep their adopted birth certificate. But for all new adoptees, make it mandatory that the adoptee’s medical record of live birth stay as it was intended to be the record of that person’s physical birth.

This is the true inequality. ACCESS to the truth of our births isn’t the ONLY inequality. The fact that our state government invalidated our births and replaced facts with legal fiction is the full inequality. Legally fictionalized birth certificates are not true medical facts and should not be passed off as vital statistics issued by the Health Department’s Vital Statistics Office.

Non-adopted people not only have the civil right to unrestricted access to their medical record of live birth (no parental permission or judge’s permission required), but they know that their birth certificates were not tampered with by the Director of Vital Statistics in Albany.

There is not one single reason why adoptees should be robbed of our birthrights upon adoption. Not one single reason.

It isn’t signed relinquishment that robbed of us our names and birth certificates. It isn’t perceived mothers’ confidentiality that robbed us of our identities. It is the 1935 New York State law that revoked and sealed our medical record of live birth so that our adopters could have the luxury of seeing their names as parents on a new birth certificate claiming that they gave birth, when, in fact, they didn’t. And it is the State’s idea to eradicate the identity of the natural parents to protect the adoptive family from interference that also robbed adoptees of our natural born identities.

Adopted people the world over are standing up and saying NO to this discrimination. We demand our natural-born identities returned to us. Adoption re-wrote the facts of our births, rewrote our names and our parentage. We want our vital statics returned to us. The truths of our births are not to be obliterated by our government.

Who among you will stand up for the truth?

Who among you will work with me to write new legislation to give each and every adopted person in New York State (and the whole of the United States) equal access and equal identity civil rights as those who are not adopted?

To all New York State Legislators: You have your birth certificate.

Now I demand the civil right to mine. And my fellow adoptees demand the complete restoration to theirs as well.

As I have stated in my previous emails, if YOUR birth certificate was removed and annulled of its official certification, and if YOUR birth was invalidated by the State of New York, if YOUR identity was erased and replaced by a new one, you might be just as outraged as adoptees are today.

It would be an education for you to see all of my birth certificates: my hospital birth certificate, my short form birth registration, my long form medical record of live birth, my short form amended birth certificate issued upon adoption, my long form birth certificate issued upon adoption. To see all of my birth certificates, follow this link to my article published on my website: https://forbiddenfamily.com/2017/03/24/presenting-my-sealed-birth-certificate-and-falsified-one-as-evidence-of-new-york-state-fraud-revoking-sealing-and-falsifying-adoptees-birth-certificates-is-unconstitutional/ Presenting My Sealed Birth Certificate and Falsified One as Evidence of New York State Fraud – Revoking, Sealing and Falsifying Adoptees’ Birth Certificates is Unconstitutional

Once you see the evidence I present, you may change your mind to VOTE NO on A5036B and S04845B.

If you vote YES to the new New York Bill of Adoptee Rights (A6821-A and S5169-A), then know that there is much more work to be done. You must also devise ways to overturn the 1935 law that revokes and seals, and then falsifies birth certificates of adopted people to completely restore civil rights to identity for all adopted people.

Sincerely,

Doris Michol Sippel

Born January 7, 1956.

Adopted as Joan Mary Wheeler on January 14, 1957.

Legally reclaimed name of birth on June 13, 2017.

New York Legislators Please VOTE NO on A5036B and S04845B

Saturday June 17, 2017

Subject: VOTE NO on A5036B and S04845B – here is why

Assembly District 140

Senate District 60

 

Dear Distinguished Representative:

There are many reasons that the mirror Assembly and Senate Bills A5036B and S04845B do not provide for Adoptee Rights.

Relinquishment papers remove ALL parental rights, whether voluntarily signed, signed under duress, or parental rights were terminated by the state. The bills up for a vote – A5036B and S04845B – will actually give natural parents legal power over their adopted-out daughters and sons. Under all other circumstances, NO parent has any jurisdiction over the actions of their children who reach the age of majority. Passing A5036 and S04845B will put further discrimination upon adopted people who have been treated as children by the law in New York State since 1935.

Don’t forget, many adopted persons were removed as children from abusive natural parents. You will be giving these abusers more power over their adult-children by voting this into law.

While you may think that voting YES will protect natural parents’ privacy or confidentiality, you would be mistaken. NO natural parent has even been promised confidentiality on any relinquishment signed statement.

In today’s world, we no longer view single mothers in the same derogatory sense as society did in the early 20th century. In fact, over half of children who are adopted are not born bastards. Many older children are adopted by step parents, removed from abusive homes and freed for adoption, or suffer the death of one or both parents leaving them orphans. The 1935 New York State law that revoked and sealed adopted people’s medical record of live birth did so under society’s need to dispose of and hide mothers’ sexual behavior outside of marriage and to hide the illegitimate bastard child.  Clearly, with step parents adopting their step children, with older children being removed due to abuse and then adopted, with orphans being adopted, it is evident that legitimately-born children are being discriminated against by laws meant to eradicate the evidence of being born a bastard.

In an effort to continue to hide from the truth of illegitimacy, New York State is about to vote into law bills that look only at the circumstances of birth that would be humiliating if made known.

The handful of mothers who claim they want to hide are inflicting their narrow view onto thousands of others who do not share their shame. Mothers-in-hiding need to accept that a medical record of live birth records the facts of birth of a new human being whether conceived within a marriage, by teenage love, an affair with a married man, a priest, a well-known public figure, a known or unknown rapist, a brother, father or uncle incest perpetrator. Perhaps these mothers are more afraid of repercussions when the father’s name is exposed than they are of meeting their own daughter or son. Maybe the fathers of some adoptees don’t want to be known so they fight adoptee-access legislation.

Surrendering a child does not revoke, seal, nor replace a child’s birth certificate with a new one. The only legal process that results in a person’s total loss of identity of birth is court-ordered adoption.

After relinquishment, adoption agencies and attorneys are under no obligation to tell parents whether or not their child was adopted, or lived in ten different foster homes, or died at age four. Many surrendered children live with other relatives, legal guardians, or in foster care until they age-out of the system. These children keep their birth certificates, even if they were removed from abusive parents whose rights were involuntarily terminated.

Passing A5036B and S04845B into law would then require adopted adults to seek natural parent permission to access their own birth certificate. No other adult needs parental permission for any major or minor decision. This is, again, discrimination against adopted persons.

To give natural parents who lost all their parental rights when they signed surrender documents is giving these mothers rights that no other parent has. Imagine if any other mother (or father) decides that she no longer wants her name on her now-adult daughter’s or son’s birth certificate. For parents whose children were not adopted, this would be unthinkable. Government authorities would not seriously consider granting such requests.

Facts are facts. The facts of a medical birth in a hospital are recorded by the attending physician at birth. The mother is required to fill out the birth certificate form in her hospital bed. The physician forwards the information to the Vital Statistics office and he signs the document. Whether or not mothers-of-adoption-loss want to admit it, there is no medical reason to deny the birth. Her name is on hospital records that verify the birth.

Giving redaction power to a small minority of mothers who wish to remain anonymous is giving in to these mothers’ fears. They must take their emotional pain to therapy, and not inflict their pain onto others by means of dangerous legislation that further curtails thousands of adopted people, bastards or not, in New York State.

For New York State to redact names from a medical record of live birth is to legislate manipulation of the facts, just as falsifying new birth certificates for adopted people is also manipulation of facts. The only difference is that, in placing new names on a non-medical record of live birth (the new birth certificate does not reflect medical facts) the registrar of vital statistics knowingly places false facts on a government form. The new document appears to be a birth certificate, but it is a legal document only.

If passed, these bills would require adopted people to sign up and pay for confidential intermediaries assigned by the court. These intermediaries will handle communication between the adopted person and the natural parents, ignoring the fact that the original purpose of these bills was for Adoptee Rights to access to their birth certificates. Reunion is a separate issue. Requiring confidential intermediaries joins these two issues together.

A Judge would further dictate over the rights of adopted people by making the final decision whether or not she or he feels that releasing the sealed birth certificate would harm the natural parents.

All of these provisions will cause harm to all of New York State’s adopted citizens.

I would like to point out that the very act of revoking, sealing and then falsifying adoptees’ birth certificates is integral to the adoption process by federal guidelines established in 1930. New York State began revoking, sealing and falsifying birth certificates of adoptees in 1935.

As I have stated in previous letters and emails to you, this law should be repealed, along with all tentacles of law connected with it in vital statistics, public health, domestic relations, and adoption. These laws should be replaced by reality-based documentation of live birth as applied to all other American citizens who are not adopted. This would immediately restore to New York State adopted citizens full identity rights to our certified medical record of live birth, annulling falsified birth certificates, reestablishing adoptees’ full equality under the law to non-adopted citizens – a right we had prior to 1935.

Adoptees’ medical record of live birth should stay as originally intended: to be the accurate record of the true facts of birth. In all cases of adoption, the truthful medical record of live birth is overridden by a fictitious birth certificate.

Criminals who are imprisoned for life never lose their civil right to their birth certificates. Felons who were executed had the right to die as themselves. Adopted people, however, are stripped of a civil right for life, and death, because of one reason only: adoption.

When you, our lawmakers, honestly see adoption through the eyes of adopted people, then you may be able to see that adoptees are not treated equally under the law to non-adopted people.

To further my argument, I took back my name of birth in June of last year. At age 60, I legally reclaimed my name that should have been mine since birth. New York State changed my name when I was 15 months old in compliance with the 1935 State law that revokes, seals, and replaces birth certificates of adopted people. Even though I legally reclaimed my name, I still do not have the legal right to unseal and obtain a certified copy of my accurate birth certificate.

But I own it. My father gave my birth certificate and baptismal certificate to my adopting parents when he relinquished me to them in 1956.

I used my certified copy of my medical record of live birth to legally reclaim my name of birth. I used the court order of name change and my medical record of live birth to change my name and parents’ names in my Social Security file, to obtain a driver’s license, and a Passport.

But I do not have the legal right to obtain a certified copy of my accurate birth certificate because of the oppressive 1935 law that removed its official validation.

If your birth certificate was no longer valid, how would you feel?

If other people were granted privileges over your access to even an uncertified copy of your birth certificate, how would you feel?

If you knew that your legal birth certificate was fabricated with false facts, but you were not allowed a certified copy of your accurate birth certificate, how would you feel?

To see all of my birth certificates, follow this link to my article published on my website: https://forbiddenfamily.com/2017/03/24/presenting-my-sealed-birth-certificate-and-falsified-one-as-evidence-of-new-york-state-fraud-revoking-sealing-and-falsifying-adoptees-birth-certificates-is-unconstitutional/ Presenting My Sealed Birth Certificate and Falsified One as Evidence of New York State Fraud – Revoking, Sealing and Falsifying Adoptees’ Birth Certificates is Unconstitutional

Once you see the evidence I present, you may change your mind to VOTE NO on A5036B and S04845B.

As elected public servants, you have the public responsibility to protect your constituents. These bills would be harmful if passed into law. You must also devise ways to overturn the 1935 law that revokes and seals, then falsifies birth certificates of adopted people to completely restore civil rights to identity for all adopted people.

Sincerely,

Doris Michol Sippel

Born January 7, 1956.

Adopted as Joan Mary Wheeler on January 14, 1957.

Legally reclaimed name of birth on June 13, 2017.

Last plea to NYS legislators for Adoptees’ Civil Rights for the June 2017 Legislative Session

Tuesday June 13, 2017

VOTE NO ON A5036B

Dear New York State Assemblymember and Senate member:

I am opposed to A5036A.

The “Adoptee Bill of Rights” with new numbers A5036B and S4845B must be killed outright.

No bill is “a clean bill” – even ones that declare access to sealed records is the answer. Access is not the answer. Full restoration to adoptees’ identity rights to certified copies of our accurate birth certificates is the only answer. Here is why:

Revoking, sealing and then falsifying adoptees’ birth certificates is integral to the adoption process by federal guidelines established in 1930. New York State began revoking, sealing and falsifying birth certificates of adoptees in 1935. This law should be repealed, along with all tentacles of law connected with it in vital statistics, public health, domestic relations, and adoption. These laws should be replaced by reality-based documentation of live birth as applied to all other American citizens who are not adopted. This would immediately restore to New York State adopted citizens full identity rights to our certified medical record of live birth, annulling falsified birth certificates, reestablishing adoptees full equality under the law to non-adopted citizens – a right we had prior to 1935.

One year ago today – June 13, 2016 – at the age of 60, I legally reclaimed my name that should have been mine since birth. New York State changed my name when I was 15 months old in compliance with a 1935 State law that revokes, seals, and replaces birth certificates of adopted people. Even though I legally reclaimed my name, I still do not have the legal right to unseal and obtain a certified copy of my accurate birth certificate.

(see my blog post on this topic)

Both of my natural parents and both of my adoptive parents are dead. They cannot answer to confidential intermediaries, nor would they want to. My parents of birth are my parents. Period. I’m sure that my 30 year old mother, dying of cancer, would not give two shits for your stupid questions, New York State.

Where are MY civil and human rights to the truth of my birth? According to New York State, my records are locked up tight because it is presumed I was born a bastard. The 1935 law was created to hide legitimacy. Somewhere along the line, orphans were absorbed into this law – my mother died when I was three months old and my father gave me up for adoption. Children adopted by step parents, children adopted by grandparents or aunts, uncles, or older siblings were also absorbed into the 1935 law. In all cases of adoption, the truthful record of live birth is overridden by a fictitious birth certificate.

A5036B and S4845B are bills set up to protect natural parents’ perceived rights to privacy and anonymity. But all relinquishing parents lost all parental rights when they signed relinquishment papers. Whether parental rights were terminated by a court, signed under duress, or voluntarily relinquished, the outcome is the same. Surrendering a child does not revoke, seal, nor replace a child’s birth certificate with a new one. The only legal process that results in a person’s total loss of identity of birth is court-ordered adoption. Relinquishment removes all parental rights but does not erase parents’ names from their child’s birth certificate. After relinquishment, adoption agencies and attorneys are under no obligation to tell parents whether or not their child was adopted, or lived in ten different foster homes, or died at age four. Many surrendered children live with other relatives, legal guardians, or in foster care until they age-out of the system. These children keep their birth certificates, even if they were removed from abusive parents whose rights were involuntarily terminated.

Assigning parental power where none exists invalidates the right of children to become autonomous adults at the age of majority. No parent has legal authority over an adult offspring, nor has the right to redact their name from their child’s birth certificate. Mothers-in-hiding claim they should be granted rights that they never had.

Criminals who are imprisoned for life never lose their civil right to their birth certificates. Felons who were executed had the right to die as themselves. Adopted people, however, are stripped of a civil right for life, and death, because of one reason only: adoption.

Adoptees’ birth certificates should never be revoked, sealed, nor replaced. Adopters (straight or gay) should not be given the upper hand to call the shots as to whose names appear on the birth certificate as mother and father, or mother and mother, or father and father. Adoptees are autonomous beings, not possessions. We should not lose our birth certificate, nor be assigned a new name and new parents, in exchange for a home, if we truly need one. Today’s adoptions “build families” rather than provide homes for children in need.

Adoptees’ medical record of live birth should stay (to use a legal term) as originally intended: to be the accurate record of the true facts of birth. The amended birth record forces adoptees to live lies.

Adoptees are ignored in the adoption transaction. State laws violate the constitutional rights of every single adopted person in the United States (and many countries in the developed world). What further proof is needed to see that revoking, sealing and then falsifying adoptees’ birth certificates is integral to the adoption process? The legal structure of adoption requires the obliteration of the adoptee’s identity and family when a new one is created. Would adopters adopt if they were required by law to respect a child for who she is and who her parents are, that they have no right to re-name a child or to replace parents’ names on a government falsified replacement birth certificate?

Moving forward, let 2017 be the last year of secrets and lies. From now on, reality-based documentation of live birth will provide all citizens their identity rights. Take away revoked, sealed, and falsified birth certificates from adoption and the resulting legal process is custodial guardianship. Guardianship preserves a person’s right to name of birth, the medically-factual live-birth certificate, and family of birth, even when parental rights are terminated.

“Adoptee Identity Rights Restoration” needs to be written into New York State law as well as United States constitutional law. Let America lead the way for adoptee freedom worldwide.

To see all of my birth certificates (yes, I own certified copies of my now-sealed medical record of live birth), follow this link to my article published on my website: https://forbiddenfamily.com/2017/03/24/presenting-my-sealed-birth-certificate-and-falsified-one-as-evidence-of-new-york-state-fraud-revoking-sealing-and-falsifying-adoptees-birth-certificates-is-unconstitutional/

Presenting My Sealed Birth Certificate and Falsified One as Evidence of New York State Fraud – Revoking, Sealing and Falsifying Adoptees’ Birth Certificates is Unconstitutional

Sincerely,

Doris Michol Sippel

Born January 7, 1956.

Adopted as Joan Mary Wheeler on January 14, 1957.

Legally reclaimed name of birth on June 13, 2017.

Dear Adoption, Do Not Tell Me How I Feel

As I reblog this by Elle Caurdaigh on Dear Adoption, I must tell you, my readers, that Elle’s words could be my own. Every single word resonates with me.

There are only three lines that describe a situation that do not match my feelings because these don’t match my life:

“When I say I long to connect with my birth family, you say “those people” mean nothing to me.
When I say I miss my original mother, you say I have abandonment issues.
When I say I mourn my bio-father, you say I cannot grieve someone I never met.”

Because I was found by my natural family so very long ago, these statements don’t exactly match up. For me, I was already in reunion (since 1974) when so many of my adoptive family, and so many strangers, told me that “those people mean nothing to me.”

For me, my natural mother died, for real. I spent the first 6 weeks of my life in an incubator. So yes, my abandonment issues are very real, felt on an instinctual, pre-verbal level.

For me, I never met my mother because she died. I only know of her from those 7 months (yes, only 7, not 9) while I grew inside her. And yes, I can, and I do, grieve for someone I have never met.

For me, I met my natural father and had an on-again, off-again relationship with him. Ours was a complicated father-daughter relationship. While many people love to blame him for “giving me away,” I never held that against him. How many times have heard from adopters that I SHOULD hate him for what he did to me?

Dear Adoption and Dear Adopters: Stop telling me how I SHOULD feel and how I SHOULD behave. You were never adopted.

One last thought on one last quote from Elle:

“You do not know my pain, Adoption, because you cannot admit you are the cause of it. You want to think you saved me – that I would have been an abortion statistic without you, that my mother and I would have lived on the streets unless you came along.”

For me, I would not have been an abortion statistic because abortion was not on anyone’s mind at the time my mother was pregnant with me. She was dying, Adoption! My married mother wanted to stay alive to raise her five children with her husband! How dare you, Adoption, assume that every single adopted person was “conceived in sin.” I am an orphan, Adoption, conceived in love. I would not have lived on the streets because I already had a home, a family, a name, and a birth certificate before you came along.

Thank you, Elle, for putting into words what so many of us have been feeling for so long.

IMG_1239Dear Adoption, Do Not Tell Me How I Feel

Dear Adoption, I need you to hear me – without interrupting or forming a response before I finish. I am adopted, not you. I have experienced it, not you. My entire existence has been shaped by the construct of adoption, leaving me incapable of imagining my life otherwise. You cannot imagine, so for once, just shut up and listen.

Dear Adoption, do not tell me how I feel. When I say anything concerning my families or my feelings toward them – or adoption in general – do not contradict me as if you know better. As if you have any idea the complex emotions and psychological mindfuck adoption creates. As if you have any basis of knowledge on the subject. You don’t.

Dear Adoption, you have no idea the harm you did, in the name of A Better Life. You…

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My Response to Jeremy and Jenny Advertising to Adopt in Yard Sales and Trades

Dear Jeremy and Jenny,

I saw your ad on April 24, 2017 posted in Tri-Cities, TN, Yard Sales, Trades & Wanted, with the title “Loving Couple Hoping to Adopt.” So good of you to include your telephone number, your email address, your website and your Facebook page. This is advertising to take another woman’s baby from her. Other words used to describe advertising to adopt are: trolling for children, child trafficking, kidnapping. You are instructed to use coercive language to convince a pregnant teen or young woman that she is not able to parent her own child.

Even though you say you know adoptees and see how they have bonded with their adoptive families, I thought you might want to hear from an adoptee to tell you the other side of adoption, the side you do not want to see.

The both of you may or may not be aware that there is such a thing as the adoption reform movement. We consist of mothers-of-adoption-loss and adoptees, lawyers, doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, clergy and many of us are authors who have been rising up against the established adoption practices of modern America since our movement began in 1953.

But you don’t care, you just want a baby. Any baby will do. And while you are coveting someone else’s baby, these are the words of a friend of mine who posted a link to the following article just last night on Facebook: “So you think this is far-fetched? Does this not describe the adoption and surrogacy industry? To a ‘T’.” She is referring to this article: We Live in the Reproductive Dystopia of “The Handmaid’s Tale”  http://www.newyorker.com/books/page-turner/we-live-in-the-reproductive-dystopia-of-the-handmaids-tale

I suggest you read this article as the both of you have a lot to learn. But I doubt if you will take the time necessary to attempt to comprehend the magnitude of what you want to do to destroy a family so that you could have that baby of your dreams.

Me, I am a 61 year old adopted woman. I was raised as an only child by a father and a mother who did not want me to ever know the truth. They willfully kept me away from my full blood siblings. Yes, they knew the whole truth, but they wanted a child all to themselves. They got what they wanted. I was the innocent child who knew nothing. I loved my parents with every fiber of my being.

Until I was 18 in 1974. That’s when I was found by my full blood siblings: three sisters and a brother. We also had two step brothers, two step sisters, and a baby half-brother. (The add-ons were from our father’s subsequent marriages.) My siblings told me that I was the youngest of five children born to our mother. Our father told me that his wife, my mother, was dying while pregnant with me. Her body tried to survive so I was born early at 32 weeks gestation. My mother died three months later.

A Catholic priest told my father to give the baby (me) to two parents. He did. He kept the other four children, and got married to a woman he knew in high school. I will believe what my father told me the day we met. He said that the priest told him “the baby needs two parents”. My father made the choice to give me to a married couple he chose because he was a very religious man and followed the advice of his parish priest.

I was in the middle of two families. Everyone had their own versions of what happened. To my extended adopted family, most aunts and uncles thought I was disloyal to my adoptive parents. A few of my adoptive relatives were kind and compassionate, comforting me as they could see how traumatized I was at learning the truth in the way it was presented to me. My natural blood family also did not know how to proceed with a reunion as there were no guide books back then. I was the one in the middle, caught in the crossfire. Both sides expected me to be what I was not. I have had absolutely no contact for nearly 40 years with the sisters who found me. I want it that way.  Not because I am against reunion, but because they are cruel, insanely vicious people. Today, there are only a few cousins from both families who truly love me, and I them.

Yes, my childhood was filled with joy, because I was a child. There were times, though, that I felt different. I was alone. Deep down, I knew I was not alone. But I was not allowed to know.

My innocent childhood was over the day I was contacted by my eldest sister who knew where I was for ten years before making that first phone call. I felt violated. I had no privacy. Everyone knew about me but I was the one who was not allowed to know the secret. No one cared how I felt.  They were all too busy telling me how to feel and what I should do.

As a direct result of my reunion and the shock of all the lies my adoptive parents told me, and of all the hate heaped upon me, I became an activist and have been one since 1974. I have fought ever since against the laws that stole my birth certificate. I speak out against social and legal prejudice that marks adoptees as ungrateful and allows people like yourselves to troll for babies to adopt by advertising to lure a pregnant teen or young adult into your clutches.

Jenny and Jeremy, you desire a baby. So what? You have each other. You are both alive. My mother DIED at age 30! My mother DIED so that I could make my adopters HAPPY. I would rather have had my dead mother back to life and my siblings and my father as a family than the life full of lies and deceit, scapegoating, and loneliness I was forced to live because of adoption.

My mother’s name was Genevieve. They called her Gene. (I also see Genetics in her name. How appropriate.) They also called her Genny.

Jenny, how does the similarity in names feel? Kinda gets ya, or at least it should, Jenny. If she had lived, my mother (not my birthmother, my MOTHER, Genny) would be 90 years old now.

And, for the record, with all the fighting my adoptive mother caused between us, she always spoke of my mother as “your mother” as a sign of respect. Never once did my adoptive mother utter the words “birthmother” or “birthfather”. She always addressed my father as “your father”. To me, my adoptive father was also “my father”, just as my adoptive mother was always “my mother”.

How old are you, Jenny? Can you comprehend the losses I had to live through in the first three months of my life to make it possible for me to make my adoptive parents happy? Isn’t that an incredible burden to place upon one tiny premature infant? And to carry that burden throughout my life? Just to fulfill the desires of a childless couple?

No, I didn’t need a new home. I already had one. I needed my family, not a new, fabricated, one. I didn’t need a new name, or a new birth certificate, I already had a name and a birth certificate.

How much reading have you done on adoption psychology, Jenny and Jeremy? Do you know who Jean Paton was? She was my friend. Do you know who Annette Baron and Ruben Pannor were? They were my friends and colleagues. Look them up. Do you know who Betty Jean Lifton was? She was also my friend and colleague.

Do you know who Joe Soll is? Do you know who Carol Schaefer is? Do you know who Lorraine Dusky is? Do you know who Lori Carangelo is? Why not? Do you know what Americans For Open Records is? Why Not? Do you know who Sandy Musser is? Why not? Do you know who Lee Campbell is? Have you seen her historical videos on YouTube when she appeared on Teh Phil Donahue Show talking about Concerned Untied Birthparents? You don’t? Why Not? Do you know who Mirah Riben is?  Why not? Look up her articles on Huffington Post. You will get a valuable education.

In fact, look up all of these names and you will see that they are authors. Some are adoptees, some are mothers of adoption loss. All of them are pioneers in adoption reform. And there are many, many others who have had the courage to speak out against the discriminatory system of adoption.

If you don’t know who these pioneers in adoption reform were, and are, then you know nothing about adoption. NOTHING.

Have you even been to an International adoption reform conference held by the American Adoption Conference? NO? How about Bastard Nation? NO?

I’ve been attending local and regional adoption support meetings for adoptees since 1975. How about you? I’ve been attending adoption reform conferences since 1976. How about you?

I know thousands of adoptees, mothers-of-adoption-loss from around the world. How about you?

Do you what the Baby Scoop was? Why not?

Do you know what the Stolen Generation was? Why not?

Do you know about the Magdalene Laundries? Why not? I know women who gave birth there, and women and men who were born there, survived, and are looking for their mothers. Do you?

Have you ever read any books on adoption social work and psychology? Adoption law? Have you read any books written by mothers-of-adoption-loss? By adoptees? By fathers? By therapists? NO? Why not?

Oh, yes, this is an important edit I am adding 24 hours after this post was published. Jenny and Jeremy, add this book to your reading list: The Child Catchers: Rescue, Trafficking, and the New Gospel of Adoption by Kathryn Joyce. You will really like that one!

Jenny and Jeremy, have you ever really talked with women who have lost their infants at birth through forced adoption? They describe the event of birth and the immediate taking of their womb-fresh newborns as being “de-babbied” and “raped of baby at birth.”

Have you ever thought about what it feels like to an adoptee to celebrate the day they were born by feeling a tremendous sense of loss? Do you know how it feels to know that the day you were born was the day you were removed from the only mother you ever knew as you grew inside her? This thing called adoption prevents the natural order of life itself.

Will the adoption you choose be opened or closed? Open adoptions close all the time because once the adopters get the baby, they run. All the legal papers say the baby is theirs now, by birth, no less, so they close the adoption and leave no forwarding address.

And the child’s birth certificate is changed.

Do you want to start your relationship with someone else’s child you will call your own based on dishonesty, deception, and lies?

Jeremy, you will have nothing to do with siring the child. Jenny, you will not participate in the conception, or pregnancy, or the birth. Therefore, neither one of your names belongs on a birth certificate. But, adoption will provide you that privilege of having your names on a birth certificate for a baby you did not create, but hope to adopt.

Why do you want to participate in government-sanctioned lies?

Does your church promote lies? Is lying a sin?

If you are both honest people, you ought to be ashamed of yourselves for contemplating placing false facts on a birth certificate of a child you did not create.

Jeremy and Jenny, please, turn your desire for someone else’s baby into kindness and sympathy as to what young parents are going though when faced with an unplanned pregnancy. Do they need help to keep their family together? Do you really need to pry them apart? Can you help out by being there as friends, as care givers? As legal guardians for a child while the parents figure out what they need to do to pull their lives back together? You can love a child without legally changing the child’s name and birth certificate, or without forcing a child to give up their entire family so that you can have the experience of parenting.

You are pleading for a mother to give up her baby to you. And for a father to be unknown to his child. That is selfish and cruel of you.

Stop. Are you Christian? Would Jesus want you to ask a mother to give up her baby? What kind of people are you? Are you people of faith or are you predators?

Adoptees and mothers-of-adoption-loss have no choice but to accept what was done to us. We work tirelessly, without pay, to make sure not one more mother or father loses their child to predators like you. We work tirelessly, without pay, to change the laws so that we may access the truth of our births that was taken from us.

For adoptees and mothers of loss, we must Radically Accept that adoption has negatively affected us.

Now I am asking YOU to take on what we are told by our therapists: you must meditate and go into full Radical Acceptance of your situation. You must Radically Accept that you cannot have children because of a medical condition. Grabbing up someone else’s child will not cure your medical condition.

Radical Acceptance might cure you of your emotional need to take someone else’s child and pretend that child is yours. You are infertile. Adoption does not cure infertility. Neither does a false birth certificate that declares you sired and gave birth to a child you know you didn’t.

Jeremy and Jenny, the two of you are married. You have each other. You love each other. Be grateful for what you have. Radically Accept your lot in life and face reality. Hold on to each other for the true joy that you have, and then you would not cause others multitudes of lifelong emotional pain. To covet another woman’s child and another man’s child is a sin. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife….

Think about it.

Change your ways.

Repent your sins.